Sitting in church, listening to the sermon, I realized that I have heard this verse so many times and have quoted it too many times to count. Though, I never realized how deep it really does go. Anger is a part of life, but (as pastor Roger put it) we shouldn't attack a person in anger but we should address the real root of the problem. Communication is the key to getting past ANY problem.
So then, putting away falsehood, let all of us speak the truth to our neighbors, for we are members of one another.
Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
and do not make room for the devil.
Thieves must give up stealing; rather let them labor and work honestly with their own hands, so as to have something to share with the needy.
Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear.
And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with which you were marked with a seal for the day of redemption.
Put away from you all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander, together with all malice,
and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you.
It is okay to feel anger. It is not okay to be sinful because of that anger. Finding a solution is the key. Life is too short to stay angry. You never know when you are going to lose a person.
Part of why this all hit so close to home (besides the obvious loss) is that while dealing with the MANY emotions I have learned to accept, anger is the toughest. The smallest thing can anger me, I am having to learn to control that, and realize what I am actually angry about.